A quote about not fitting in.

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This quote really inspired me today, so I decided to make a blog post about why.

I spent my school years trying to fit in. All of them. I felt like an outcast most of my life, basically. I thought there was seriously something wrong with me, that I just couldn't fit in with anyone, everywhere I went. I've attended 10 different schools in my 13 years of education in grade school. Always the one left out, overshadowed, overlooked, last one picked. There were exceptions when I actually found a few close friends to hang around with, but I never did fit into any one group or "clique". 

As an adult, I now understand this quote. I relate to it. Nobody ever talks about how liberating it is to feel free from the pressure of having to fit into a certain group of people. To feel free of all the expectations of a certain group that a person fits into. I have friends who are family to me, but they also come from all walks of life, and from all over the place. I'm not in just any one group of friends, where certain things are expected of me in order to maintain my status or place. I wake up in the morning a free person. Every day.

After seeing this quote earlier today, it makes me even more thankful that I can wake up every day and just be myself. 

What you can take away from reading this, is to embrace your individuality. If you never fit in or find your place in a group of people, it's ok! Run with it! Be free! The right people will gravitate toward you in the most unexpected ways.

If you've taken the time to read this, thank you.




 

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